n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
Sonder; my favorite (hopefully soon to be) word. It actually isn’t a word just yet. John Koenig coined the term. He is the creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows; a website and YouTube channel, that defines neologisms for emotions that do not have a descriptive term.
This is my favorite word because of the complexity of its definition. It makes you think about the world from a different perspective and hopefully creates empathy for your fellow humans.
For me it creates a sense of love, even for those that I will never meet or interact with in my life.
It is the realization that everyone has a life completely unique to them and only them; but it also gives us a sense of unity amongst humanity. We all love, struggle, and perceive our lives and the things around us in a different manner. But at the core of it all we are all human, and sonder is one trait that we all share.
Until next time, my love to you all,
A Half Broken Mind